Everyone is seemed to be in the quest for the elusive true love and today we are constantly bombarded of scenes by the media that depicts "true love" and they are really effective. Yes, effective in confusing humanity about what true love is. The media often blurs true love by limiting it to criteria like having the "kilig" factor, exchanging of endless sweet nothings, and ending in happily ever after. As we know true love is more than those mentioned criteria. So what is really true love or how will you know that you found it?
It took me several relationships before I learned and felt what true love is. I can say that it is really not about the "kilig" factors, endless sweet nothings, nor it is necessary to be happily ever after. Most of us fail the love test by giving-up easily on our relationships due to some minor (or major) indifferences with our partner. We often conclude that s/he is not the right person for us; instead we should fill the deficiencies of our partner just like a jigsaw puzzle to create a clear and complete picture from the broken pieces. The "kilig" factor is another reason why true love fail to proliferate. I am not against it, infact I find it a plus if you can maintain the "kilig" in your relationship after 3 or more years, but "kilig" does not necessarily equate to true love. Also, it does not mean that you feel "kilig" to another person is that s/he is automatically the one that can let you have the true love experience. I can associate "kilig" more to infatuation or puppy love rather than on true love. Then there's the delusional happily ever after. Well I will tell you that fairy's and there tales do not exist in the real world. In a normal relationship arguments happens and some experts even consider it as healthy.There are still many reasons why most of us fail to experience true love and surely your eyes will sore if I will mention all. The bottom line is for us to experience true love we have to work for it. We have to be understanding and patient to our partners. We also need to know how to value ourselves and what we have. And lastly, we need to learn contentment. True love does not come in a package, it needs to be nourished.
It took me several relationships before I learned and felt what true love is. I can say that it is really not about the "kilig" factors, endless sweet nothings, nor it is necessary to be happily ever after. Most of us fail the love test by giving-up easily on our relationships due to some minor (or major) indifferences with our partner. We often conclude that s/he is not the right person for us; instead we should fill the deficiencies of our partner just like a jigsaw puzzle to create a clear and complete picture from the broken pieces. The "kilig" factor is another reason why true love fail to proliferate. I am not against it, infact I find it a plus if you can maintain the "kilig" in your relationship after 3 or more years, but "kilig" does not necessarily equate to true love. Also, it does not mean that you feel "kilig" to another person is that s/he is automatically the one that can let you have the true love experience. I can associate "kilig" more to infatuation or puppy love rather than on true love. Then there's the delusional happily ever after. Well I will tell you that fairy's and there tales do not exist in the real world. In a normal relationship arguments happens and some experts even consider it as healthy.There are still many reasons why most of us fail to experience true love and surely your eyes will sore if I will mention all. The bottom line is for us to experience true love we have to work for it. We have to be understanding and patient to our partners. We also need to know how to value ourselves and what we have. And lastly, we need to learn contentment. True love does not come in a package, it needs to be nourished.
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